Caregivers of people who have a chronic illness, Alzheimer’s disease, and other dementias need all the support they can get. If you know someone who’s caring for a person with any of these illnesses or diseases, learning how to create a circle of support and help for the caregiver is essential.
HELP FOR THE CAREGIVER
Recently Lisa Honka provided a presentation to Social Workers and other health-related professionals on how to provide help for the caregiver and create that circle of support they desperately need. Here are a few highlights of ways you can help a caregiver.
BE SPECIFIC
General offers of help to the caregiver can be hard for a caregiver to accept. If you want to support a friend who is caring for a loved one, make a concrete offer. For example:
- “I’m going to the grocery store. What can I pick up for you?”
- “I’ve got a couple of hours free tomorrow afternoon. May I sit in for you while you run errands or take time for yourself?”
- “I doubled my meatloaf recipe so that I could share it with you. I brought enough to last you for several meals.”
- “Do you need some laundry done? I can pick it up today and bring it back clean tomorrow.”
- “Does your yard need to be mowed? I’d be happy to take care of it this weekend.”
CHECK IN
Sending a card or calling a caregiver can be a meaningful way to show support. Emails and text messages work, too — but often personal visits are even better. Contact with the outside world can help lift a caregiver’s spirits.
Not sure what to say? Consider offering that you know caregiving is hard and you will be there anytime the person wants to talk. Don’t assume the person wants tips, resources or advice on caregiving. Listen and offer comfort.
RECOGNIZE SIGNS OF CAREGIVER BURNOUT OR STRESS
Keep in mind that some caregivers have a difficult time accepting help, mistakenly believing they should do everything themselves. This attitude can be harmful not only to the caregiver but also to the person who has dementia. Caregiver stress can lead to irritability, anger, exhaustion, social withdrawal, anxiety, depression and other problems.
If you live in The Villages, Florida, consider giving TLC-Services.org a call and set up a time to talk to a therapist about your feelings. They can provide professional help for the caregiver.
If your offers of help aren’t accepted, be patient but gently persistent. Remind the caregiver that he or she doesn’t have to do this alone — and the best way to take care of someone else is to first take care of yourself.
LEARN MORE
Watch Lisa’s presentation for more ways you can provide help for the caregiver and create a circle of support.
